Pure Potions Shampoo and Conditioner Review

 

A few months ago I got the chance to try some new moisturisers, and I was so impressed. They really helped soothe my rosacea and dermatitis, to the point where I don’t really suffer with them anymore.

So, I was very interested when I saw that Pure Potions had brought out a new shampoo and conditioner range.  The Natural Shampoo and Conditioner are so kind to skin that they are also suitable for those prone to allergies, eczema, itchy scalp or seborrheic dermatitis. It is free from detergents, polluting additives, synthetic preservatives and potentially-irritating petrochemicals and is instead packed with nourishing natural ingredients, including organic cold-pressed oils, herbal tinctures and essential oils.

I’ve been very conscious that my hair has become bunged up with products and often feels like it has residue in. I definitely felt like this shampoo cut through all that and my hair felt clean and light. The conditioner left my hair feeling soft, without making it smell  like chemicals.

My boyfriend also tried it to see how his psoriasis dealt with it. We were both impressed. It was non irritating and gentle on his scalp.

I definitely recommend this shampoo for anyone with sensitive skin or scalp.

Read more about the products here

*Pure Potions kindly gifted me these products as PR samples

A Synesthesiac’s Perfume Review

I love perfume and body sprays. For me, they elicit memories, feelings and even colours. I’ve been trying a few new perfumes this summer, but also sticking to some firm favourites. Here are some of my favourites at the moment:

 

Fijian Water Lotus Eau de Toilette

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This really is one of my favourite perfumes. It’s a lovely light, fresh daytime scent. It is the first aquatic-base perfume I’ve tried and it’s exactly the sort of smell I’ve been looking for. It smells so clean and has lovely crisp undertones of mandarin. Bearing in mind it contains extract of hand picked water lotus, I feel like it is quite the bargain.

Buy it here

Ghost Deep Night Eau de Toilette Spray

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I’ve been wearing this perfume since I was 16. It is a firm favourite. It is a powerful scent, which lasts a long time. The base is the exotic and fragrant flower -Indian Rose. The sweetness of Apricot and Peach is blended with base notes of White Woods and Vanilla to add warmth to the fragrance. It is slightly more of a deep and heady scent than I usually go for, but the sweetness balances this out. I definitely want to try more from the Ghost range. This perfume always reminds me of great memories of evenings out. A great evening scent.

Buy it here

Monsoon Rose Gold Eau De Parfum*

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This is a new perfume to me this summer and I am so glad I tried it! Usually I’m put off by muskier scents, as I feel they are too strong smelling or more suitable for a slighter more mature person, but this is a new favourite! It rivals very expensive perfumes on the market and never seems to fade. It has top notes of sparkling lemon and soft fruit.  Ozonic scents are layered with velvety rose, tuberose, neroli and cyclamen, and underpinned with base notes of Eastern woods, vanilla, mosses, musk and balsamic amber. It is such a deep and complex smell- it is very alluring. At first you are reminded of a rose garden, then you begin to smell the citrus tones. This is a definite winner for me. 

Buy it here

Gwen Stefani Harajuku Lovers Sunshine Cuties Eau de Toilette- G

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Oh man I wish they still made this. I have one open bottle and one still in it’s packaging which I’m saving for special occasions. This was my absolute favourite perfume. Maybe it’s because of the point in time I was wearing it, but it really does smell great too. It is really coconutty, but not sickly sweet. It reminds me of my first year of uni and always puts me in a good mood. This perfume also got me a lot of compliments and seemed to draw people in. I don’t think you can ever go wrong with coconuts!

I believe that it is similar to the other G perfumes, so I’ll definitely be trying that.

Buy it here

Accessorize Love Lily*

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Firstly, the bottle of this perfume is so lovely. It really looks good on your dresser. It reminds me so much of being a teenager and I don’t know why. It’s a really young fruity scent. It features notes of raspberry, orange, jasmine and sweet vanilla. I think this is a lovely perfume for teenagers, but it is a little bit sweet for me.  Nice for a bit of nostalgia though!

Buy it here

*products marked with asterisks were kindly given to me as PR samples from Sparkle PR

 

Hotter Shoes Blogger Evening

A while ago I was lucky enough to be invited to a Hotter Shoes blogger event in Bromley. I’d heard good things about Hotter from a lot of people, and I’d really been looking for some hypermobile feet- friendly shoes!

As soon as I arrived I had something fizzy in hand, so I was very happy. There was also a lovely selection of nibbles and treats, so we were spoiled as soon as we got to the door.

I’d never actually been in a Hotter shop before and I was pleasantly surprised. I think a lot of people are under the misconception that they make ‘old lady shoes’ but this just isn’t true. Yes, the emphasis is on comfort, but there were a good selection of stylish shoes on display.  Many have #comfortconcept features like “memorise” insoles, extra wide or even dual fitting. I am a big fan of the memorise insoles. The painful heels I’d been suffering with have really gone away since using them.

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I picked a pair of stylish trainers called Stellar as my gift from Hotter and I love them.

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I’ve been wearing them to the gym for a few weeks and I’m very happy with them. They’re lightweight, easy to get on and really supportive. I definitely recommend them as trainers for anyone who has trouble feet or just doesn’t fancy standard sports brands.

I am a true Hotter Shoe convert. I think I own about 6 pairs of Hotters and I know that collection will be ever growing!

Here I am at the event talking about my trainers:

10 Things I Did to Rid my Rosacea

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Today I am very happy with my skin. I have never seen it so clear. Rosacea is a chronic condition, so it might not be the case that it stays like this. Hopefully it’ll last a while and either way, I have found many ways to manage the symptoms before they get really bad.

Quercetin Supplements

Quercetin is a type of flavonoid antioxidant that’s found in plant foods, including leafy greens, tomatoes, berries and broccoli. I am a big fan of quercetin. I noticed a huge difference in the flushing part of my rosacea when I started taking the supplements. I found that taking small doses of it before I ate best.

Azaliac Acid

I was prescribed this by the GP after trying a few different topical treatments to no avail. I definitely think it helped with the little spots and evened out the lumpy areas. I am prescribed a gel, but you can purchase a lower dose suspension by The Ordinary Company which I have linked above.

Pure Potions Daily Moisturizer

I was gifted with this product by Pure Potions and it definitely changed my skin. It stopped looking so angry and feeling hot. This brand is great for people with sensitive or dry skin. I always put it on before the azaliac acid to minimise the drying out. It is cruelty  free and all natural ingredients are used.

Ranitidine

I found I was flushing whenever I had a drink and I hated it. I don’t drink that often anymore, but still really enjoy a social drink and wasn’t willing to stop. I then found a thread on Reddit about Rosacea and ranitidine. Apparently, it is street knowledge that if you take one tablet 20 minutes before having a drink, it stops the flush. I thought I’d give this a try, as I already have to take things for stomach acid. It did seem to work for me, but I don’t make a habit out of it. It’s best to speak to your doctor about medications before taking them.

Rose Hip Oil

I use rose hip oil everywhere now. I swear by the Trilogy one. I really think this is what took my skin from looking good to excellent. I think it has helped heal leftover scars from spots and gives me a lovely glow. I cannot get enough of this product.

Polaar Arctic Cotton Scrub

I was left with lots of dry flakey bits after spotty episodes and felt like I needed a good scrub. It’s hard to find scrubs which are suitable for rosacea. A lot of them aggravate it and make my spider veins come up. This one is fine and very gentle, but very effective. It also smells amazing. It is my favourite smell. I try to limit myself to using it twice a week, because I just want to be smothered in the smell everyday.

FODMAP Diet

I took a food allergy test a few years ago because I suffer terribly with bloating and general tummy troubles. I had positive reactions to dairy, egg and gluten. I cut out dairy and eggs but ignored the gluten, because I thought it would be too hard.

I was still getting a lot of bloating and also felt that my skin flared up after certain foods, but still wasn’t sure which ones. I decided to try the FODMAP diet after reading a blog by TalontedLex.

It involves cutting out a lot of foods and is extremely hard. I used an app by Kings College which I have linked above, to scan foods to tell me if they were suitable. It was handy when I fancied a treat and there was a long list of ingredients on the packet.

I found that the inflammation in my skin had completely gone after a month of doing it. I really think I put it down to cutting out gluten and soya. I still try to stick to a FODMAP friendly diet, but am less strict if there are traces of some of the high FODMAP foods in something I want to eat. I try to keep meals as simple as possible, and eat in small portions. I no longer feel bloated and the red patches on my skin have gone.

Face Mist

Stopping my face from getting too hot has been a big part of my strategy. I carry around the Trilogy Face Mist with me everywhere I go and have a fews sprays a day. It gives your make up a nice dewy look but also soothes and cools your face instantly. Perfect to stop you drying out in the office!

Not Washing my Face in the Morning

This sounds really weird, but I found using water on my face first thing in the morning seemed to make my face go blotchy. So I switched to just dabbing on cleansing oil. I felt that doing this started to break the cycle of flushing.

Antihistamines

I do think a lot of my issues are allergy based. Before I was diagnosed with Rosacea, I was constantly getting hives on my face. Keeping topped up on certirizine has kept my itchy skin at bay and it also means I’m touching my face a lot less.

 

Rosacea is such a miserable condition but with a good plan of attack hopefully it can be controlled!

Vegan Nutty Marzipan Cake

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This is my twist on an Easter Simnel cake. I’d gladly eat it all year round!

Ingredients

170g Raisins

170g Sultanas

1 Orange Zest

5 Tbsps Disaronno

170g Unsalted butter

170g Chopped Mixed nuts

170g Light brown sugar

4 Portions of egg replacer

170g Plain Flour

85g Ground Almonds

1 Tsp Ground Cinnamon

1 Tsp Apricot Jam

Dr Oetker Marzipan

Instructions

  1. The day before baking the cake, put the dried fruit and orange zest in a bowl. Soak ingredients in the disaronno overnight.
  2. Preheat the oven to 200 degrees. Lightly grease the base and sides of a deep round cake tin.  Put the mixed nuts for the cake onto baking sheets and roast in the oven for about 8-10 minutes. Set aside to cool.
  3. Lower the oven temperature to 150 degrees. For the cake batter, beat the butter and sugar until light and fluffy. Add the egg replacer a little at a time, beating until combined before adding more. Tip in the dry ingredients and add a pinch of salt and fold together. Add the mixed nuts, dried fruit and mix it all together. Scrape the the batter into the prepared cake tin and for about 2 hours. Take out of the oven and leave to cool.
  4. Cut the marzipan to desired shape and add to the top of the cake. Decorate as desired!

‘May Require Heavy Lifting’: jobs and Disability

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*RANT ALERT*

I’ve had some bad interviews recently. I mean, blog worthily bad.

I’ve always performed really well in interviews. Generally, if I’ve got my foot in the door I can get the job. This has changed recently, but I don’t think it’s entirely my fault.

I am dyspraxic, I have vertigo and I also have Hypermobility Spectrum Disorder. The way this affects me in regards to jobs are that I can’t lift heavy things, I can’t climb up high things and I can’t crawl around on the floor or anything like that. These shouldn’t really be a problem for me because I come from a writing background, so have worked in social media and copywriting for big well known brands. My disabilities never caused any issue in my past jobs.

I’ve had a couple of really weird interviews recently, in which the job descriptions did not reflect what they were looking for:

The Tea Company

This job looked fairly interesting. They were looking for a social media manager to lift the profile of their tea brand online. They had advertised for someone with copywriting, photography, SEO and general social media skills. This is pretty much what I’ve been up to for the past 4 years, so when I was contacted by a recruiter about it, I thought it seemed quite hopefully.

When I turned up to the interview it was very odd. They also owned a luxury home company, which they wanted help on social media with. I thought, that’s alright, I can do that. It suddenly turned to ‘well, you’d be on a building site most weeks’. Hang on a minute. How have we gone from social media manager for a tea company to walking around in a hard hat and up scaffolding?

He then asked ‘well, could you cope working with all the men on the building site?’ Firstly, if he’s trying to stereotype these men, e.g. they’re wolf whistling or whatever, that is their wrong, not mine for ‘not coping‘. Secondly, why would I be working with people on a building site as a social media manager. Maybe, I can imagine occasionally going to take some photos or something, but this seemed as if it was the main part of the job.

He’d done what SO many employers do and presumed that ‘most’ people can walk around on a building site, so why does it need mentioning? Of course it needs mentioning, you can’t make assumptions that everyone applying to a writing role would be physically able to do that. You haven’t advertised anything physical, so why should I know that will be expected of me?

I wonder, if I’d turned up using some form of mobility aid, whether he would have just rejected me immediately.

Also, when he left he said ‘oh don’t worry about paying for the teas we drank’. In the teashop he owns…thanks m8.

The School

This was one has upset me recently. I got rejected from this job, and I can’t claim it’s because I’m disabled, but there was something in the second stage interview that was odd.

This job was an office based job. The job description detailed social media management, website management, relationship outreach, copywriting and event planning. The first interview went really well and seemed very positive. I was there for 2 hours discussing all the ideas I had for events and we went on a tour of the school so I could see the facilities I could use if I worked there. I told the first person about how I may struggle with lifting heavy things at events as I have dyspraxia, but I’m very happy to help with all other setting up. They were absolutely fine with this and told me that the site manager usually does stuff like that.

I was invited to second stage interview and the day before my second interview, they wanted me to get my references to hand in personal and detailed references by the end of the day of my second interview-I thought this seemed quite positive too.

On the day of the second interview, I was interview by the deputy headmistress which went well. Then I was interview by another lady, who I hadn’t been told I’d be interviewed by. I was told she just wanted a ‘quick chat’. I thought it was that she wanted to meet the person she may be working with and to introduce herself/explain what she does.

Straight away she got a clipboard out and started grilling me. She briefly touched on my experience and made remarks such as ‘I see you have a lot of experience in social media, have you used Facebook before?’ COME ONN. If she’d actually read my C.V, she wouldn’t need to ask such a basic question.

She then really honed in on the event side of things. Her question was ‘how do you feel about getting really stuck in with setting up the events?’ My response was honest; ‘I’m very happy to get involved in as much as I can, but I can’t lift really heavy things because I have dyspraxia.’ She looked really taken aback and didn’t really respond. So I said ‘I was told the site manager usually helps with those things.’ She replied ‘well, yes, but I like to do it myself and get properly stuck in’.

For the rest of the interview, she spent the time craning her neck to look out of the window behind my head and didn’t really look at me again. I found it so rude and upsetting because it happened almost immediately after I’d said about heavy lifting. She made me feel like I should be embarrassed by my disabilities.

When I asked why I’d been rejected from the job they used the reason that I had less event management experience than the other candidate. Now of course, this other person probably was just more experienced than me, but It did make me wonder whether it was related to that strange reaction from that lady.

Some people have said to me that I should just nod along and say I’m happy to do these things. I don’t think I should have to. I have applied to jobs in good faith, thinking they have been advertised correctly. Yes, all jobs sometimes have extra duties not advertised, but these jobs main focuses were completely different to the advert.

I shouldn’t have to lie and risk hurting myself or someone else. Any job which may require heavy lifting or climbing up ladders etc should include that somewhere in the advert or they should be able to cope with someone who can’t do those things, but excels at the core parts of the job.

These are only a couple of experiences, but I’ve had so many where people have made me feel as if I’ve been a nuisance to them because I can’t lift heavy things. Trust me, it’s more annoying for me than you. Dyspraxia and hypermobility affect me every day of my life in lots of little and big ways. I’m incredibly adaptable because of this, but there are a few things I just can’t do, and that’s ok. I’ve been honest and applied to jobs which haven’t detailed those things I can’t do.

I just wish employers acknowledged that disabled people do exist, they do work, they all differ. I cannot begin to image what it is like for people who do use mobility aids or have  more physical disabilities than me, who have turned up to interviews like this-I’m sure it must happen often.

Also please advertise if you have an office dog! I love dogs so much, but I am incredibly allergic. Epipen level allergic. I know it must be annoying for people with dogs, but it’s worse for me. I need to know if there will regularly be a dog somewhere I’m regularly going to be. I won’t be able to take the job and everyone’s time will have been wasted if I go to interview…and I’ll just get sad that I can’t stoke the dog.

 

A Full Body Service with Anatomicals*

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I love Anatomicals. It has long been one of my favourite brands. I think the packaging is by far one of the best around, and the smell of the products is better than any other. So, I was very excited to receive a parcel from them, to whip my body into shape. I’ve been neglecting my beauty regime a bit recently, so I thought I’d give myself a full body service!

Hands and Feet

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I suffer with dry skin, and the first thing to go is always my hands and feet. The hand cream has already become one of my favourite hand creams. It smells amazing and has a gorgeous texture. It also adds a lovely shine to your nails. The shea butter is deeply moisturising but not heavy.

The foot cream smells just like a spa! It feels like you’re having your own pamper session. The eucalyptus scent is invigorating and refreshing. My feet are definitely softer and less callused.

You can purchase the hand cream here and the foot cream here.

Lips and Eyes

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I love these lip balms. I usually buy a stick lip balm, but these are liquid. The nice thing about them is that they are really softening but don’t like an early 2000s over glossed look. They definitely protect your lips properly from the elements and make them look plump and kissable! The spf element is definitely a winner too.

The eye gel is incredibly cooling and not heavy. Exactly what you want to waken your eyes up. It is not sticky and soaks into the skin immediately. Dark circles and lines visibly reduce using this. A little bit goes a long way! Works on my sensitive skin, so I believe it is safe to use on all skin types.

You can buy the lip balm due here and the eye gel here

 

Skin, Muscles and Joints

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So I have some areas which get particularly dry. One knuckle on my left hand seems to be a real bugger to get rid of. I like this balm, because it does seem to be keeping it a bit more in check than usual. It’s definitely less angry looking. I have been applying it around 3 times a day. I think a few more times a day and it could well be almost gone in a couple of weeks.

I get the occasional bout of muscle aching and joint pain in my knees and fingers due to hypermobility, so it’s always good to have something handy to reach for other than a load of pain meds. I like this rub because it uses arnica, which is amazing for inflammation and pain.

You can buy the both here.

Hair and Body

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I like these because they smell lovely…obvs, and they’re really handy to take to the gym and swimming with me. I’m not often one for 2 in 1 shampoo and conditioners, but I like this one because it’s not so conditioning that it makes your hair greasy.

These come from the Jet Set Saviour Pack, which is one of my favourite weekend away kits. You can also find the lip balm and dry skin balm in this pack, which is an absolute bargain. It also includes my all time favourite body lotion.

Full Body

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My legs have been really flakey recently, I don’t know why. I wanted to find a scrub to use in the shower that wasn’t too rough and also didn’t leave that over-the-top greasy residue on the skin or gravely bits in the bath. This is a really great scrub because of course it smells amazing (duh) but it’s a nice texture and does the job I’m looking for. My skin feels freshened up and soft after using it, but not red and scratched. Also, importantly it is microbead and paraben free. It uses walnut shell to revitalise skin.

To add the finishing touches, the Mango and Coconut Body Lotion (guess what I think about the smell of this product) is perfect. It is enriched with vitamin E, so leaves the skin silky soft and you feel like you’re on a tropical holiday using it.

You can buy the scrub here and the lotion here.

I really do love everything about this brand. It’s cruelty free, well packed, smells AMAZING, does what it says and is a great price for what you are getting.

Anatomicals is sold through ASOS, Superdrug, Ulta Beauty and…Anatomicals 😉

*Some of these products were gifted to me, but all the opinions are honest and my own.

Don’t Dump your Friends for your Boy/Girlfriend!

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So, this a REAL pet peeve of mine. Here are some examples of when people have done this to me and why I think it’s a mistake. *(I’m going to change their names, because I’m not horrible!)*

  1. Boris*

Boris really used me. He was a right selfish person really.

Boris was my best friend for most of my teen years. I was a bit shy and awkward at school, so didn’t really have many friends. I actually met Boris on MySpace (oh the good old days). He made me feel fanciable and he was also my first guy mate. In return, I gave him constant support and attention.

In hindsight, I think he was a bit of a user, and only kept me in his life as long as I was useful. It’s taken me a long time to think of things in this way. He started seeing a new girl, which I was really supportive of- I was just pleased to see him happy. But, I did notice our contact dwindling quite a bit when she appeared on the scene. I didn’t mind, I understood he’d have less time, I had a new boyfriend, so I got it. Eventually he just stopped replying to me. Then he started deleting me on social media.

I was really hurt by this, because we had never had an argument, so it made no sense to me. He’s now married with a kid and has seemingly removed a lot of his friends from social media and never appeared with anyone other than his wife and her family. I actually ended up sending him a letter to try and resolve things. He ignored this.  I just worry that, when people do stuff like this somewhere down the line, when the honeymoon period is over and they fancy hanging out with some mates, there will be no one left to hang out with. He’s made himself very insular and if anything went wrong with his wife, he’s not left himself with much of a support network.

2.  Cletus*

Cletus has pissed me right of recently. We had the beginning of a romantic relationship in my first year of uni 2011. According to my friends he was quite smitten with me, and I was  flattered…he’s very very handsome.  I wasn’t sure if I was looking for a relationship, because I’d just come out of a long term one, but I loved his company and…he’s very very handsome. He went travelling and then suddenly stopped talking to me. I was pretty disappointed, but hadn’t got too invested, so left it alone.

When he returned, I think he thought he could start everything up again, but by then I had met a boyfriend. Despite this, we forged quite a strong friendship and he really supported me through some bad times at uni. He had an on/off relationship with another girl at uni, who I thought was a perfect match for him. She was and is besotted with him, so I encouraged the relationship to blossom. I was really chuffed for them when they got together.

A couple of years went by, where things were pretty distant with him. Then we met up for lunch, which was lovely. He did then let me know that his girlfriend had been texting him the whole day constantly because she didn’t want him to meet up with me. In a way, I could see where she was coming from. But she did know Cletus’ past, so should be able to trust him. I also have my own boyfriend, who they know. After that lunch, I never heard from him again. Pretty shitty. If it is because of orders from his girlfriend, then I really do think that will lead to a lot of resentment on his part in the long run, and just fuels her jealousy.

3.  Gertrude*

Gertrude was new to a group of people I’d know for years, and I think she was looking to make new friends, so I invited her to do stuff with me. We got on a like a house on fire and never stopped laughing. In my mind, she was one of my best mates. After getting dumped by my boyfriend at the time, she was really there for me. She constantly talked about how when we both got boyfriends again, we’d still go out and be silly together. A few weeks later she got a boyfriend, moved away and then didn’t really speak to me again. We met up for dinner about a year later and she was talking about marrying her boyfriend. I said ‘ooh I can’t wait to be at your wedding’ and she was like ‘oh, you won’t be there it’ll be all the way in *insert not that far away place here*. I was pretty offended and confused.

We’ve all been there, we meet someone new and we just want to spend all our time with them, but in the long run that phase wears off. It’s always best to have a good blend of friends and partners.

Always Strive to be like Matthew Rees

I’ve been a having a bit of a rubbish week this week, but when I saw this story it snapped me out of my unhelpful thought processes.

Matthew Rees, from Swansea Harriers Athletics Club, helped exhausted David Wyeth, from Chorlton Runners to finish the London Marathon.

On Monday I found out that I’m starting to get arthritis in my feet which isn’t brilliant, so that set me off to a bad start. Then I had to spent the last of my very little money on a doctors note for my PIP form, so I started feeling pretty sorry for myself. I’d made plans with a couple of friends throughout the week to cheer myself up and they all cancelled on me last minute. The thing which was upsetting, was that the reasons they gave were pretty offensive to me. I’m the most understanding person when it comes to changing/cancelling plans. My health problems mean I often have to change things.

The reasons they gave were basically that they had other offers (after we’d made the plans) which appealed to them more. The fact they felt it was even ok to tell me this as a reason…well, it hurt my feelings. In a way, I’d rather they’d lied to me, to spare my feelings. One message read ‘Oh, I forgot to message you, my friends are making me dinner, so I’m gonna do that instead.’ They didn’t even say the word sorry!

I also had a couple of friends ignore my messages all week (which is out of character), then contact me when they wanted to phone me to talk about themselves.

This experience isn’t anything new to me, I’ve had quite a few one-sided friendships or fair weather friends. I’ve had friends that don’t bother to invite me to social events, but are very quick to call me when they need a favour or advice. I spend a lot of time trying to work out what it is about me and why it happens so often to me. I think it’s because I generally avoid confrontations and I’d like to think I’m good at being supportive and giving advice.

I’ve invited friends to live at my house when they’ve had trouble, I’ve lent people money, I’ve sat on the phone talking through things for hours…and a lot of these people decided to cut me off once they’ve got a steady partner. I once stood in a queue on my own for 5 hours to get a CD signed for a friend because I knew he loved the band, and then he stopped talking to me when he got a girlfriend. It’s made me feel pretty used and a bit lonely.

I wallowed in all this over the weekend, and just started to feel quite bitter. I started saying to myself ‘I don’t want to be someone who helps anyone anymore’. ‘I’m just going to be selfish from now on’.

I’m not going to do that. I want to always be the person who helps others to the finishing line, because that’s what life is about. Just because other people might run by, doesn’t mean you have to. Some of the richest moments of my life come from crossing the finishing line with someone else. If I let these negative experiences rule my future, it would be me missing out.

The people who use others or don’t help others are missing out on the rewarding and fulfilling parts of life. I genuinely believe that although I feel a bit lonely now, when it comes down to it, I will have the more worthwhile people in my life and deeper friendships than people who I feel are selfish but more ‘popular’ than me.

Just to add: I do have some really amazing friends in my life, for which I am so grateful for. You are what makes my life a lucky one and I love you. 

 

 

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